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Tips for Caring for an Elderly Spouse with Dementia

Dementia is a challenging condition that affects millions of seniors worldwide. It impacts memory and thinking and can get worse over time without proper care. However, if your elderly spouse has been diagnosed with dementia, some strategies can help manage the progression of their condition. We’ll share them with you in this month’s blog so you can provide the best possible dementia care for your loved one.

Educate Yourself about Dementia

Understanding dementia is essential for providing effective care. Educate yourself about the different types of dementia, the symptoms, progression, and common challenges associated with each type. Knowing what to expect can help you prepare emotionally and practically for the caregiving journey.

Related: Learn more about how to catch early signs of dementia in seniors here.

Establish a Routine

One important tip for caring for an elderly loved one with dementia is to establish a consistent routine. Dementia can cause confusion and disorientation, and a predictable routine can help provide structure and stability, reducing anxiety and agitation for the individual. Stick to regular meal times, bedtime routines, and daily activities as much as possible. Consistency can help your loved one feel more secure and comfortable in their environment, making caregiving smoother for both of you.

Encourage Independence

While it’s essential to provide support, encourage your loved one to maintain independence as much as possible. Break tasks into manageable steps, offer assistance when needed, but allow them to do things on their own when they can. They may be able to assist with light household tasks such as setting the table, folding laundry, or watering plants. Simplify tasks and provide clear instructions and supervision as necessary.

Find a Reliable Support System

As a caregiver, you might believe that you’re too occupied to engage with others. Nevertheless, it is important to prioritize time to talk to others. When you have people in your life whom you can share your thoughts or concerns with, they can offer validation and encouragement, reminding you that your efforts are valued and appreciated.


Remember, you’re not alone on this journey, and there are resources and communities available to support you every step of the way. At Home Instead Senior Care, we understand the importance of compassionate dementia care and are here to provide support and guidance. Visit our website or call us at (910) 342-0455 to schedule a consultation and explore how our services can enhance your caregiving journey and overall well-being.

Dementia Care: Dos & Don’ts

Talk to them in a calm manner and try to shift their focus to something else.When a loved one has been diagnosed with dementia, most people do not know how to handle the situation. It presents behavior problems like anger, paranoia, confusion, and fear, which can lead to aggressiveness or violent speech. Understanding which strategies are most effective will help you effectively manage their behavior. In this article, we will talk about common situations and how to handle them appropriately.

Common Situation #1: Aggressive Actions or Speech

People suffering from dementia commonly have communication difficulties. This can be one of the most frustrating aspects for your loved one and for yourself.  Therefore, when they are acting up, the reason can be attributed to their disease and the changes it causes in the brain.

Examples: Statements like: “I don’t want to take a shower!” or “I want to go home” or “I don’t want to eat that!” may escalate into aggressive behavior/speech.

Do: Try to understand what is causing your loved one to behave aggressively. Ask yourself what she or he is feeling to make them behave like that. Make sure they are not putting themselves or others in danger. Talk to them in a calm manner and try to shift their focus to something else.

Common Situation #2: Confusion

People suffering from dementia will at some point experience confusion about time or place.Redirect their attention to something else. Move them to another room, go for a walk or even give them a snack, if it’s allowed.

Examples: “This isn’t my house” or “Why are we here?” is a common side effect of memory loss.

Do: There are many things you can do in this situation. You can show them pictures of them among loved ones. Another great solution is to redirect their attention to something else. Move them to another room, go for a walk or even give them a snack, if it’s allowed. And always remember to speak in a calm manner!

Common Situation #3: Cognitive Problems or Poor Judgment

Examples: “You stole my TV!” or “I saw him take away my vitamins!”

Why does this happen? The deterioration of brain cells is a particular explanation for behaviors showing poor judgment.

Patience, Love and Understanding Will Go A Long WayDo: The Alzheimer’s Association says that you should be encouraging and reassuring. You can help minimize frustration by offering help in small ways. Let’s say they think someone stole their vitamins: you can show them where their vitamins are located. It’s important for you to be as organized as possible so if they cannot find something, you will know exactly where they are.

Patience, love and understanding will go a long way with a loved one suffering from dementia. They get frustrated just like you do. Never try to argue with them – it will only make things worse.

Do you know someone suffering from dementia or memory loss? What have you done to help your loved one? Let us know – we want to hear your stories!